For a mother to go on a trip is a lot of work. For a mother to go on a solo trip is even worse. A mother has to essentially plan her two roles of mother and business women and create to different itineraries and timelines that intercept, intertwine but even more, ultimately work. Not only does she have to worry about her flight, transportation to and from the airport, her accommodations, and the food for the trip but she has to ensure that everything on the home front runs smoothly.
If you are lucky like me you have an amazing man in your life that will assist in this transition but sometimes it’s the mothers mental to-do list that can’t be transferred. We have to beg friends and family members to help fill in the gaps when Dh can’t be home. We have to make arrangements to and from sporting events and dance classes so this change in routine doesn’t disrupt your kids daily life. We have got to ensure things like laundry, grocery shopping and chores are taken care of to ensure that life will continue to run smoothly until you return.
Once the logistic are worked out there is the mom guilt to overcome. I love being me but I hate leaving my kids. I am very close to my kids and it has come to a point that I can’t tell them I’m leaving until the day before or they I’ll get very upset. The tears that well up in dd4’s eyes as her lip quivers or the look of disappointment is ds9’s eyes as he tries to stay strong but can’t contain his emotion or the full out heart bleeding sobs of ds7 is enough to haunt you for life never mind the trip.
Sometimes being a business mom means you have to go away. It’s not a bad thing to be away from your children for short period of time. It allows your children to become independent and resourceful. It reinforces relationships with other family members and your spouse, and more importantly it allows mom to reconnect with the person she is and allows her the time to shine!