“MOM! He won’t share!!”
My household has been a World War three battle ground. I don’t know if its cabin fever from our long dreary winter or what, but lately my two sons have been constantly at each others throats! In the past, they would play for hours on end and I wouldn’t hear a word. Now, its seems like every few minutes some is yelling or screaming that its not fair. A conflict between siblings is very common, in appears to be natural reaction in both the animal and human world. From day one, my boys have loved and accepted one another, while valuing each others friendship and companionship. They share the same room, they play with each other daily, and they miss each other when the other is away. They are NOT by any means perfect angels! They fight over toys, colour of drinking cups and which WII game they are going to play next. These arguments are a normal part of the growing process that allows them to explore and learn from their feelings.
Unfortunately, a household that’s full of conflict is stressful for everyone. As a parent, it can be very frustrating and upsetting to hear your kids fight with one another. I never know when I should get involved, when I should let them work through their differences on their own or how I can help my children learn to come to terms that they are not always going to see eye to eye. Recently I was introduced to a product that not only promoted peace in my household, but taught my children how to understand and describe their feelings in a positive, constructive way.
When we were first received the Ruby’s Studio package in the mail, my boys were excited to receive new books! They love reading and I barely had the books out of the package before they were begging me to read them. We sat down and read the books right away. My children felt a connection from the first page! I love the way they introduce Ruby at the beginning of every book and set the tone for the story by explaining the feeling that would be depicted in the story. Through a combination of humor, adventure and excitement, the story explores a feeling and the character deals with that feeling. It used real life situations that were easy for both my children to relate to. Upon completion of the story, DS7 eagerly discussed the lessons taught in the story and how he can help other learn about their feelings too. Over the next few days, I saw change in DS5’s behavior. When he became angry or frustrated, he would relate how he was feeling to the story we read and it made it easier to work through his problems. I was happy to see these positive changes.
I knew the books would be a big hit, but I wasn’t sure if the DVD would. I was worried that the content would be too babyish for DS7 and he would loose interested, missing the main concepts being expressed and I feared that DS5 would enjoy the DVD but fail to grasp the meanings and see it as a cluster of fictional stories rather than a life lesson. We were head on a road trip to my sister’s house, so I thought it would be the perfect time to engage them in the DVD (there were limited distractions and I would have their full attention). From the minute the DVD began until the end credits, my children were absorbed in the movie. They laughed, they smiled and they began to related the lessons taught to things that they experienced in their life.
It has been 3 weeks since we first put the DVD in car. It still remains there! The kids ask to watch it every time we enter the car whether its a five minute drive to the story or a long distance jaunt to a friends house. My favourite thing that my children have learned from the DVD is the GOLDEN RULE.
We use this rule on a daily basis. When an argument erupts between brothers, we sit down and discuss the golden rule. I find that it puts the argument into perspective for the boys and since watching the DVD, they have begun to work through their own problems. I love listening to them solve their own problems. It’s not uncommon to hear “Remember what Ruby said!” and applying some scenerio that they saw in the DVD.
Here’s what the kids had to say:
DS7: My favourite part of the DVD is the songs and lessons being taught in them. I love the story about the balls (One for all) because it teaches us that bullies are not nice and if we stick together we can stop bullies.
DS5: My favourite part of the DVD and books is the ‘special goodbye’ that Ruby taught us! It helps me to remember to be nice to my friends and my brother.
I received one or more of the products mentioned above for free. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.