Colic is defined as period of time which an infant cries and the underlying cause for this fussiness is unknown. This describes my Princess P, age 10 weeks, to a “t” or it did! For weeks, I had tried everything to figure out why my daughter would cry for hours on end. I stopped eating gassy foods, I tried letting her cry it out, I tried slings and swing, nothing seemed to work. When she was sleeping, she was a dream but when she was a wake, WATCH OUT! It is a very stressful situation trying to figure out how to make a beautiful baby to stop crying when she couldn’t tell me what was wrong… Or could she?
The Baby Whisper!
Thanks to a great friend, I was handed the book “The baby Whisper” by Tracy Hogg. This book was a lifesaver. The novel was created as a way for parents, whether they be first timers or third timers like me, to help a newborn adjust to the outside world. The novel starts prior to birth and continues until toddler-hood. It helps parents learn how to regulate their newborns eating and sleeping patterns through understanding the personalities of their babies.
The most influence part of the novel for me was the E.A.S.Y plan. Tracy theorizes that newborn needs a schedule which is not tied to the clock, but rather provides a sense of understanding to which the newborn knows what will happen next. This is the E.A.S.Y. part!
E – Eat
A – Activity
S – Sleep
Y – You (time for you)
This acronym was the key to finding my happy little girl. I read Tracy’s book in hours! It was so informative, addictive and inspiring. With in a few days, I had princess P on a routine and her fussy periods lessened each day! In her book, she often referred to accidental parenting, it turned out I was letting her dictate our day. Instead of getting the right amount of sleep at the right time, she was instead forming bad habits and ending up overtired which lead to the uncontrollable crying.
With Tracy’s help, I came to the understand that I was a crutch for Princess P and instead of teaching herself to calm herself down or self sooth, I was reacting to her cries with fear and frustration, thus escalating the situation. With the help of Tracy’s book, I got her to learn those important techniques and we were both SO GRATEFUL! She cried less, slept more and was more chatty and happy during her activity times.
Remember, the next time you are invited to a baby shower or go to meet that adorable newborn in the hospital, the best gift for Mom is the ‘The baby whisper” by Tracy Hogg.