To say my family is Netflix obsessed wouldn’t be a far stretch from the truth. When we first got Netflix, we had both cable and Netflix. We were so use to our favourite channels, special time slots and regular programs that I didn’t know how we would be able to switch. It didn’t take long before it was clearly seen that family preferred Netflix over cable 99% of the time. We loved the option of binge watching our favourite shows, catching up on shows from the past and seeing movies we had seen before, all with the touch of the remote.
One of my favourite parts about Netflix is their kids section. This section is devoted to providing kid-friendly content (appropriate for kids 12 and under). With extensive ratings, reviews, and studies of the programs prior to being showed on Netflix, parents can rest a sure that when their kids are in a KID SECTION profile their kids can easily navigate this content in a safe and fun way. The shows that they offer are full of their favourite characters, fun programs and educational content.
Unfortunately, they may be too educational for their own good!!
Let’s Talk about S-E-X
One day DS9 and I were cuddled up on the couch, watching the Pixar Short Film Collection on Netflix after the other two kids had gone to bed. We were having a good time trying to remember which Disney movie we had originally seen the short film before. That is when John Henry came on. I had never seen it before and was enjoying the powerful message that it told. It was an inspirational story about a freed slave named John Henry who who was promised land if he helped finish the railroad by the deadline. The crew gives up hope when railroad sends a steam hammer in to complete the job. John Henry knows his people need the land and proposes a challenge of man vs. machine. John Henry ends up dying, but completing the mission before he does.
Near the end of the story, the picture changes to John Henry’s wife bouncing a little boy on her lap. It was at this point that ds9 began to giggle. I was confused because it was an emotional climax of the story, not a comedic one. He then said ‘I know how that happens’. Still clueless to what he was talking about, I asked him what he meant. He said ‘I know how John Henry’s baby was made.’ My heart dropped. He’s a 9 year old BOY how does he know about that!
I have dreaded this talk since the kids were born. It’s not that I don’t think it was important or a necessary conversation between parents and child, but it’s a conversation that I would have rather Daddy explain it to him (Factual and from a guys perspective). This was one of those good heart to heart bonding moments that I just couldn’t let slip by, but I wasn’t prepared! How do I explain it? How much detail do I go into? With my background in biology and anatomy I have all the technical terms, but is that too much?
I took the logical (read: coward) approach, I asked him what he knew. He was embarrassed! He didn’t want to tell me,but I knew if I wanted to build a solid, open relationship with him, I would need to talk about these things. I began coaching information out of him. This is how the conversation went:
ME: Do you know how the baby got in there?
DS9: Yes! By S-E-X
(In my head I thought ‘Oh Dear God! We are actually going there!’)
ME: Do you know what that means? Its important for us to talk about things like this because I don’t want you to hear false information or be confused.
DS9: The man and woman put their ‘Privates together’ and the sperm from the man goes into the woman’s egg to make a baby.
I was astonished. Although, he didn’t go into detail about the act of sex, it was clear to me that he understood the basic concept of it and the results of doing so. I thought this was a great description for a boy his age and encouraged him to ask me any questions he may have now or in the future. After all was said and done, the S-E-X TALK wasn’t too bad. It was shocking to know how much DS knew at 9 years old, but it was reassuring that he was comfortable enough to talk to me. It was situation I NEVER thought Netflix would bring about, but I’m glad it did. One down, two to go!
When do you first have the S-E-X talk with your children and how old were they??